Is Lou Gehrig's Disease a Joke?

(This article was first published in the Asheville, NC Citizen-Times newspaper and is used here by permission.)

Movie scriptwriter Seth McFarlane thinks it is. Actor Mark Wahlberg thinks it is, too.

I am referring to a joke in the recently released movie, Ted. The Wahlberg character says, "I hope you get Lou Gehrig's disease." That's it. That's the joke: "I hope you get Lou Gehrig's disease." As of July 29th, the film had earned over 233 million dollars. A lot of people have laughed at this joke.

I don't think the joke is funny. I have suffered with Lou Gehrig's disease, also known as ALS, since I was diagnosed in early February 2007. The disease has taken from me my abilities to walk, talk, eat, or take care of myself. As a result, I can no longer work, drive a car, or live in my own home. ALS is a fatal illness. It will take my life unless a cure is found.

Of course, I would not think the joke was funny if it was about cancer, which my father survived, or heart disease, which killed him. I would not laugh if it was about Alzheimer's disease, which claimed my mother's mind and then her life. I would not be amused if the joke was about diabetes or rheumatoid arthritis or cystic fibrosis or Parkinson's disease or leukemia or any of the other diseases that plague the human race.

The ALS Association issued a statement describing the joke as "tasteless." The ALS Therapy Development Institute expressed "outrage." Eric Valor, a man with ALS, started a petition calling on McFarlane and Wahlberg to understand the "living hell that is Lou Gehrig's disease." They didn't think the joke was funny either.

Seth McFarlane issued a statement expressing compassion for ALS victims. He went on to defend the joke rather than apologize for it. He did not respond to requests to give money to ALS research, tour an ALS research facility, or meet people with ALS.

Maybe I should let it go. It is only a movie. Other movies are now box office leaders. There is some consolation that the words "Lou Gehrig's disease" are known well enough to be included in a movie.

But I can't give it up. It hits too close to home. It hurts people I care about.

Michelle Farr is beautiful in appearance and spirit. Her husband inherited a gene from his parents that gives him and their children a fifty-fifty chance of getting Lou Gehrig's disease. This happens in about ten percent of ALS cases. Michelle has done extensive research into her husband's family and found that over 400 members have died from the disease. She and her husband hope that their children will not get ALS. I met her through social media. Somehow she manages to smile in all her pictures.

I met a cute eight-year-old boy who has ALS. He smiles in all his pictures, too.

Lou Gehrig's disease is no laughing matter. Michelle and her children and the boy and his parents would agree.